On Sunday Oct. 9th, my husband and I celebrated our 1 year anniversary. We were lucky enough to be upstate along the Hudson on Saturday to go apple picking so we got to swing through our darling Cold Spring, walk down by the water and eat dinner with dear friends.
Cold Spring started as the town where we escaped the city to spend quality time making memories with friends and to get our antique shopping fix, then it was the town where E proposed and then it became the town where we would say 'I Do' in the little church on the hill. Now, it is the town we will forever visit and will have a place in our hearts for the rest of our lives. Our video and pictures still make me tear up!
Thinking back on that day, it might honestly have been the best day I could've ever imagined. The night before, I stayed at a stunning revolutionary era bed and breakfast and that is where all the girls gathered to get ready in the morning. We are so blessed to have such talented friends who wanted to help us make the day perfect. My friend Candice did my hair, Gretchen did makeup, we had no less than 10 professional photographers present along with our official ones, Josh and Murphy set up an old school Polaroid photobooth, our pastor Jon Tyson did the ceremony, Zach Williams and Caitlyn sang worship songs, Nate was our DJ, Adam shot video, Josh (one of my bridesmen) and Papa Ice (with a harmonica!) performed our first dance song, my sister-in-law made our wedding cake, Dana helped design the chalk boards, Mo made our DIY cake topper, Kathleen and my girlfriends baked homemade cookies, pies and carmel apples for our desert table.... our community was really the hands and feet of our wedding day. And even today, I'm not sure we'll ever know how to fully express our gratitude. It's true when they say 'it takes a village'. And I guess in our case, it takes a whole borough.
So what has the first year been like?
Marriage is so much more than you can ever expect. First off, to be honest, another human being on this earth has voluntarily chosen to spend the rest of their life with you. Just you. Weird, right? I'm not even sure I always think I'm that cool. Unconditional love is the bottom line. Second, you've got two people living under one roof and doing life together.... news flash, you can't hide any of your freak flag moments anymore, you can't be selfish and you can't expect anything to be resolved - from 'whats for dinner' moments to 'who's family do we spend the holidays with' this year- if you don't learn to communicate. Third, you will learn that changing your name in NYC is harder than being a contestant on Amazing Race. And last, but not least, you will learn how much of a gift it truly is to get to spend the rest of your life with your best friend. This is just the beginning, we've got decades of learning ahead of us.
Got marriage advice? Do share below! Would love other people's first year of marriage stories and ten or twenty year marriage stories.
Dress: Vera Wang
Get Away Dress: BCBG Max Azaria
Shoes: Badgley Mischka
Clutch: Judith Leiber
Hairpiece: Becky Shim
Fur Stole: Vintage (gift from my girlfriends before the wedding!)