THE QUALITY LIST :: FRESHLY PICKED

I have an announcement….. getting a baby’s foot into a shoe is impossible. Seriously. You’ll have better luck teaching them how to code the next Facebook at six months than getting their foot into a shoe. To help you with this endeavor, this is what I’ve learned about babies and shoes.

1. It’s like their foot has a magnet in it and so does the shoe. Everytime the two get within inches of each other, they actually deflect the other. Imagine an electromagnetic force field exists between them and it’s impossible to break the barrier.

2. Babies don’t understand how to not arch their feet. I don’t know why they don’t, but they just don’t. Idiots. So try as you may, but their foot will be stuck in an arch position and the shoe is never sliding on.

3. You’ve got about all of 30 seconds to get the shoes on or else your baby loses their cool and then it’s mission failed. Know your best approach. I prefer facing her while putting on the shoes while Eric prefers to have her sitting in his lap. Plan ahead.

4. By all means, don’t get your face too close while attempting to get the shoe on. For some reason, everyone crouches down and gets reeaaallly close, as if because the feet are so tiny they must zoom in to see everything. Do this, and you will be kicked in the face.

5. After all the blood, sweat and tears you actually manage to get the shoes on both feet of your baby. I give them an hour and at least one of them has managed to shimmy off their foot. #fail

So, now that we’ve gone over those. I also have the solution for you. Freshly Picked moccasins. This is starting to follow the rhythm of an infomercial, I don’t know why, but just follow me here. You’ve probably heard of them…. I mean, who hasn’t at this point. They were on Shark Tank after all. Susan is a powerhouse business woman and is likely going to take over the world here pretty soon. I’ve known her for a few years and recently had the pleasure of speaking on panel with her at Alt Summit. Girlfriend is a genius. She’s taken a common problem we face as parents and created a solution. A fashionable, chic, high quality and easy to use product. Oh, you just stretch it out and close it in over the babies feet? And then it stays on all day? They don’t fall off? I know it’s hard to believe, but trust me. These are the only shoes you should buy for your baby. 

As you can see, Parker has worn them throughout the duration of her long life. They are the perfect soft-soled moccasin that are best for their tiny feet, especially when they are learning to walk. Something about gripping and stability, think monkeys… or at least that’s what I thought when the doctor was explaining baby walking dynamics. You’re biggest problem at this point is going to be selecting a favorite.

Moccasin images via freshlypicked.com 

Middle School Phase

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Just wanted to write a bit about how I've had trouble sharing lately. Maybe because it was all rainy and gloomy in Brooklyn on Friday (when I started writing this!) or maybe because I have decided this is better than nothing. Either way, I have all these thoughts in my head day in and day out of things I want to blog about and then I ultimately talk myself out of it. I have posts that I’ve never posted for no other reason than I just felt like people wouldn't want to read them. I convince myself that it's a silly subject, no one would find this interesting or that there's really nothing new to say here on the interwebs that hasn't been said before by someone else in different packaging. I've been really bad at feeling confident in what I'm producing and putting out here. I'm setting standards for myself that I think are probably loftier than anything anyone else is expecting of me, which I never used to do before. It’s funny, I’ve discovered this newfound confidence in my life as a mother and have never felt so proud of who I am and what I’m accomplishing every day (read: literally keeping another human alive), yet when it comes to my creativity here on this blog space, I feel inadequate. Do I sound like a moody creative yet? 

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I feel like I’m in an awkward middle school phase with this space. There are some growing pains going on and if a blog could have braces and bad skin, I think mine would right now. I'm feeling gangly and out of place. I get stressed about being too 'mommy' on here, but then again, that's really the focus of my world right now. I know more about diaper bag launches than the Mansur Gavriel bucket bag release dates. And it used to be the other way around. Since I'm also still the same person I was before I had Parker, this is where I assume no one wants to read another post on diaper bags or why I try to choose the one that doesn’t scream ‘I’m carrying a bag full of a soiled diapers!’. There are people far and wide who have done that jig. But maybe that is what I want to write about and maybe that is what you want to read. Would that be so bad?

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Maybe it’s because I’m juggling the logistics of a full time job, a full time mom and a full time wife on top of managing life in one of the most chaotic and competitive cities in the world. That’s an exhausting sentence to read. I often tell myself that these reasons explain my lack of enthusiasm to hit ‘publish’ after a long day and really believe in what I’m putting out there. Sure, I could publish a ton of stuff that is just fine (trust me, I’ve got an arsenal of unpublished posts just hanging out), but it’s probably best to wait until I feel proud of them. That’s the wonderful thing about having an online space… things evolve and grow and the world goes on. You can always come back when you need to - it’s here waiting.  

I thrive in being able to write, to think creatively, to put together projects and share them with people. So this space will always be a need of mine - it’s not going anywhere. I’m thankful it’s here and I’m thankful you read my ramblings. This awkward middle schooler just needed to share. Now, I'll distract you with a cute picture of Parker Mae crawling....... and all is right in the world again! 

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Introducing :: Miss Parker Mae Anderson

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Well, it’s official. I have a baby. A baby girl to be exact.... and I was convinced it was a boy up until the final moments. The hospital outlined they have a ‘no returns or exchanges’ policy, so here we are about five weeks later...... still haphazardly caring for this tiny human.... that is ours..... forever. Hope she likes us!

Wanted to say a quick and loud thank you to all the well wishes and support we have received from everyone. Also, wanted to say thank you for your patience as I’ve been absent and taking much needed time for myself and our new family. Wanted to be sure to focus on relaxing and easing into motherhood. It hasn’t been graceful, but it has been a massive learning experience. These first weeks and months with your new mini person are absolutely precious and you only get them once. I see babies that are four months old and already I cry at the idea of her getting bigger and growing up. Oh, do note.... once you become a mother.... you will cry at every.single.thing that relates to your child. You should see me, I’m an emotional basket case these days! And yes, it’s true what everyone says, having a baby is life changing in all the ways you expect and don’t expect it to be. It’s magical, overwhelming, heart-filling, joyful and a true test of your mental and physical endurance. 

I wouldn’t change a thing about it. Parker is happy and perfectly healthy.

So, please continue to stick with me as I navigate into a new life balance. A lot of people have asked if I’m going to continue talking about motherhood as I did pregnancy. I’d say, it’s hard not to want to share all of the things you’ve experienced as a new mom.... it was so refreshing (and therapeutic) to switch my writing from vague and big picture to more personal and intimate once I became pregnant. So, yes.... I think I’d find a lot of joy and comfort out of continuing to share life moments as they happen.

Question.... if I unabashedly shared certain newborn moments at times, things we’ve learned, things friends ‘neglected’ to tell us, breastfeeding struggles and victories (I know, I just wrote ‘breast’ on this blog.... the times they are a changin’!) and resources I live and die by these days.... is that something y’all would want to read? I know what you’re thinking.... will this turn into a full on ‘mommy blog’? Oh, heck no my dear friends. But, am I a blogger who is also a mom? Yes. And I look forward to sharing moments, battles and success stories with this community, hopefully getting great feedback and if nothing else..... just great fellow motherly support when s**t hits the fan in my mom department. So, there we go.... I’ve used the word ‘breast’ and 's**t' in the same post. It appears I am truly a new mom.

** I’m going to try to get back into a posting schedule, but in the meantime, feel free to follow along with me via my Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter where it’s much easier to manage updates with one hand while holding a tiny human in the other.