Baby Mama Life Lessons

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There are things I’ve learned over the years about myself, I’m not one to survive camping or mountain climbing, but I sure as heck can survive the Herald Square Macy’s Christmas department the day after Thanksgiving….. which may actually be very similar conditions. Or that, sure, I can live just about anywhere, but I prefer urban settings since I’m not a huge fan of driving and delight in being able to walk everywhere - grocery store, laundromat, dinner dates. I enjoy the pace of life in walking cities. I'm also a major creature of habit. I like stability in my routine and over plan my days. These are things I've come to know about myself. Almost to the point of making them comforts. But, the thing is that now, it's more that I have to take all that I've learned about over the years, subtract that idiotic ages of 15-21 where I thought I knew everything,add in a baby, and I've realized...... I don’t really know as much about myself as I thought.        

I’m not trying to make some dramatic statement that one encounters a huge life epiphany…. I’ll save that for when you try the Beauty Blender for the first time or realize the power of owning a Keurig, but I’d say things have shifted. And maybe it happens in different ways for different people, you don’t necessarily have to aquire a tiny human, but that was the way it happened for me.

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We often get the question “What’s been the biggest change since you’ve had Parker?” You really want to know? Ok, here we go.

1. Perspective. I used to invest a lot of my energy into things that seem so trivial now. The worrying over materialistic things, the ways in which I drew value, my need for being a people pleaser and spending too much of my brain space feeling competitive. Why? 

2. Personal Discipline. Let’s get real….. being pregnant followed by nursing for a year is really just a self induced detox program. Did I drink wine and coffee while pregnant? You bet I did. Really, it was for the better of anyone in my general proximity. No coffee in the morning before answering emails? Yikes. No wine at night after a long day? Double yikes. But did I learn the value of moderation? ‘Learn’ and ‘forced to adhere to’ we will consider the same thing for the purpose of this lesson. Long gone are the days of my two-a-day venti iced coffees and Saturday morning hangovers. I know its been my choice to cut out coffee completely now, but heck, I figured we’ve gotten this far, so why not. When else will I ever be able to hold out for so long. Now, for the wine, it’s just that my tolerance is currently at the level of a high schooler, and well, that’s awesome if you ask me. Cheap date y’all! I realized I’ve only touched on the points of my discipline towards my favorite liquids, but it also seeps into how I’ve learned to value my time. Nap time makes for some insanely valuable minutes. She’s asleep? Start your engines! Emails, cleaning, dishes, a shower AND blow dry, blog post and made myself lunch. Before, I’d realistically make it to the emails and then get distracted by an ABC Family Movie. Oh, now she’s awake? Turn the phone on vibrate, ignore emails and settle in on the floor for cuddle time.

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3. Selfishness. I believe we are all inherently selfish regardless of how hard we try not to be. Most decisions we make on a daily basis we can try and justify are ‘with someone else in mind’, but really it’s just ‘what I want to do’. Trust me, I still try to get my way, but I’ve learned that those days are long gone and honestly, I’m thrilled about it. It really is no longer about me. Everything I could ever want in life, I now want for Parker.

4. Promptness. More like, what promptness? P has impeccable timing for making deposits in her diaper. It’s usually while I’m strapping her into the stroller and we are already ten minutes behind. After perfecting my power walking pace over the years of living in urban cities, it has since downgraded to a ‘mom speed’. Trying to walk swiftly with a baby strapped to your body is like trying to run in a pool. You can tell your brain to move your legs fast, but to the observers near by, you’re just slowly wading by. Walking with a nine month pregnant belly is just the training wheels for the babywearing years to come.

5. Joy. Like really, there’s nothing in the world that makes my heart nearly explode than the smile she gets on her face when she looks at me. Granted, she also flashed it to some homeless guy outside the subway the other day, but I’ll take what I can get.

There’s more. There always will be. This is an ongoing process and once you’re on board, you don’t really get to take a break from it.

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Introducing :: Miss Parker Mae Anderson

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Well, it’s official. I have a baby. A baby girl to be exact.... and I was convinced it was a boy up until the final moments. The hospital outlined they have a ‘no returns or exchanges’ policy, so here we are about five weeks later...... still haphazardly caring for this tiny human.... that is ours..... forever. Hope she likes us!

Wanted to say a quick and loud thank you to all the well wishes and support we have received from everyone. Also, wanted to say thank you for your patience as I’ve been absent and taking much needed time for myself and our new family. Wanted to be sure to focus on relaxing and easing into motherhood. It hasn’t been graceful, but it has been a massive learning experience. These first weeks and months with your new mini person are absolutely precious and you only get them once. I see babies that are four months old and already I cry at the idea of her getting bigger and growing up. Oh, do note.... once you become a mother.... you will cry at every.single.thing that relates to your child. You should see me, I’m an emotional basket case these days! And yes, it’s true what everyone says, having a baby is life changing in all the ways you expect and don’t expect it to be. It’s magical, overwhelming, heart-filling, joyful and a true test of your mental and physical endurance. 

I wouldn’t change a thing about it. Parker is happy and perfectly healthy.

So, please continue to stick with me as I navigate into a new life balance. A lot of people have asked if I’m going to continue talking about motherhood as I did pregnancy. I’d say, it’s hard not to want to share all of the things you’ve experienced as a new mom.... it was so refreshing (and therapeutic) to switch my writing from vague and big picture to more personal and intimate once I became pregnant. So, yes.... I think I’d find a lot of joy and comfort out of continuing to share life moments as they happen.

Question.... if I unabashedly shared certain newborn moments at times, things we’ve learned, things friends ‘neglected’ to tell us, breastfeeding struggles and victories (I know, I just wrote ‘breast’ on this blog.... the times they are a changin’!) and resources I live and die by these days.... is that something y’all would want to read? I know what you’re thinking.... will this turn into a full on ‘mommy blog’? Oh, heck no my dear friends. But, am I a blogger who is also a mom? Yes. And I look forward to sharing moments, battles and success stories with this community, hopefully getting great feedback and if nothing else..... just great fellow motherly support when s**t hits the fan in my mom department. So, there we go.... I’ve used the word ‘breast’ and 's**t' in the same post. It appears I am truly a new mom.

** I’m going to try to get back into a posting schedule, but in the meantime, feel free to follow along with me via my Instagram, Pinterest and Twitter where it’s much easier to manage updates with one hand while holding a tiny human in the other.

My Dream Project :: Fishs Eddy

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A couple of weeks ago, I was invited by the lovely ladies over at Fishs Eddy to stop by and help with an in-store display they were putting together for their Vintage Collection. Since they are literally one of my favorite stores of all time on planet Earth.... I may have over eagerly committed my entire schedule and possibly my first born for whatever it was they wanted. On any given Saturday afternoon, you’re likely to find me in their digging through the sale section for one-of-a-kind dish finds or scouring boxes of old knick knacks they collect and display effortlessly. When E and I got married, they had yet to set up their gift registry options and I personally made my own online registry just for all my Fishs Eddy needs. This is a serious love affair y’all. 

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Along with Grace and Maxwell of Design Sponge, Todd Oldham, Nancy Matsumoto and Susan Brinson, we were set free to roam and raid the store to create our very own unique table setting out of both their vintage tableware and also anything we could snatch up. Fishs Eddy has more than enough to inspire anyone from conventional to quirky, traditional to odd and everything in between. The goal was to display the table settings to help inspire customers to not be scared to mix and match and dress up their own table in any way they please. Which, as you know, I’m one for unconventional table settings and mismatched decoration.... so this was pretty much my dream. Could I do this all day, every day? You betchya.  

If you are also a lover of dishes, vintage table ware, rustic decor and fun accent pieces in your kitchen.... be sure to visit the store here in the city or pop onto their website and be ready to hand over your entire paycheck. 

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