Let's Chat :: The 'Busy' Trap

Now, I'm not normally one to take to the world wide web with my rants, raves or reflections about certain topics. Party pants.... well duh, that needed to have an entirely dedicated post. And so did Ellie Goulding, cause at the time, no one was raving with me and I needed affirmation from my one reader living in Liverpool!  

But this all brings us back to today. And today I read this. And this has left some serious weight and realization. It became one of those things I wanted to scream from the rooftop that every single soul should read it beginning to end.... right now. 

How many of us use 'I'm soooo busy' as an excuse, the default answer to a slow conversation starter, the means to twirl the topic back around to 'Oh, well, what are you working on?' .... which is essentially the exact ploy you were hoping would happen so you could just talk about yourself. [Insert my 'Things I'm Afraid To Tell You' banner here]..... I'm guilty of having done this. In a way, we are all programmed to default to this and all those things that make you 'busy' are merely time fillers you have personally volunteered to have in your schedule. 

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Let's clarify, this doesn't apply to those of you who are heart surgeons saving lives or the single mothers working three jobs. Y'all are doing legitimately important things for the greater good. I'm more thinking that this is a strong reminder to those of us who are just normal people with normal jobs doing normal things, who live in a space where we could have the down time, the ability to relax and truly rest deeply in our lives and opportunities for 'idleness' we have. I suffer from feeling guilty if I'm not doing something deemed 'productive' with my time. I'll remind myself that I don't have time to just stroll through the park..... I need to finish a blog post or get my media kit finished or answer all my emails or sign up for an online class or get a run in or finish that DIY project for the bedroom. I will deprive myself and slap on the guilt if what my day consisted of wasn't labeled as productive. What will I tell someone if they asked what I did today? When really, the only person thinking that...... is me. 

"Idleness is not just a vacation, an indulgence or a vice; it is as indispensable to the brain as vitamin D is to the body, and deprived of it we suffer a mental affliction as disfiguring as rickets."

So enough about my thoughts on this. Please take the time to read the article and, if you want, share your thoughts with me. I'd love to know that I'm not the only one in this boat! I'm going to shut down this computer and go be idle at the park without a watch, take a long dinner with dear friends, watch a movie with E and remind myself these moments have to be fought for, carved out and demanded in order to fully live a rich life. And.... that I'm only as 'busy' as I convince myself I am. Let's cultivate a community that finds idle time important. Thank you Tim Kreider. I'd like to have you over for dinner!